Sis… You Lied, Gaslit, Cheated, and Still Think You Deserve a King?

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Okay, queens, grab your wine.

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Kings, buckle up.

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It's China Doll holding it down solo today.

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Silk said these topics needed a woman's voice and, baby, I'm the right one for the job.

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We're talking about delusional behavior, gaslighting narcissistic lies and women who break trust like it's a job.

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We're talking about delusional behavior, gaslighting narcissistic lies and women who break trust like it's a sport.

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No filter, no favors.

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Alright, let's get into this madness.

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First off, we have Darian from Kuala Lumpur.

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I caught my girl texting three different men.

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She swore it was innocent, but then flipped it on me, said I was insecure and controlling.

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Why do women cheat, lie, then gaslight like they're the victim?

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Darian, let me breathe for a minute, because this one right here that was knee to a T and I had to unlearn that toxic mess.

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There was a time when I was talking to a few different dudes thinking as long as I wasn't sleeping with them, it was okay.

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I lied to myself and to him, just like your girl did to you.

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But when I felt caught, I weaponized his loyalty.

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I called him insecure just to deflect.

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That's emotional manipulation.

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I called him insecure just to deflect.

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That's emotional manipulation.

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That's gaslighting and it's wrong.

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Women who can't sit in accountability will always flip it.

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But trust me, that behavior comes from fear of being alone, shame and selfishness.

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It did right by walking away or questioning it.

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Don't let her flip your truth into confusion.

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You weren't insecure, you were being disrespected.

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We have Kian from Toronto, canada.

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Me and my ex-girlfriend went into business together.

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She kept pulling money out the account without telling me and when I confronted her she cried and said I was abusive.

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How do I deal with a woman who plays the victim while doing foul business?

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Kian, welcome to the real cost of mixing business and delusion.

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I had a girlfriend turned business partner who started skimming off our salon's daily cash.

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When I brought it up, she threw on the waterworks and told people I was bullying.

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Her Sound familiar.

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When a woman can't own her betrayal, she'll try to turn the spotlight away from herself and back on you.

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But use tears and twisted words.

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It doesn't make you the villain, it makes you the cleanup crew.

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It's your receipts.

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Don't mix business with emotions and next time contracts and boundaries period.

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Next we have Manny from El Paso, texas.

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My ex-girl cheated and lied and I left.

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Now she tells everybody I abused her.

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I never even raised my voice.

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How do I clear my name, manny?

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First of all, I'm sorry that pain is deep.

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I once had a friend let's call him K.

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He was the calmest man I ever met.

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His ex told people he choked her.

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That never happened, but her lies traveled faster than his truth.

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The best thing he did was to stay silent while her lies fell apart.

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You clear your name by living loud and proud in your integrity.

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Let people say what they want.

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Those who matter will see the truth in your peace, not her chaos.

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Marcus from Arizona asks my adult daughter, lies to get sympathy, turns the family against me and manipulates her mom.

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I paid for her school, bailed her out of jail and now she acts like I never buy anything.

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How do I handle her lies?

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Oh, marcus, I felt that deep.

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I had a stepfather who did right by me, but I lied to protect my biological father.

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I was wrong.

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Sometimes daughters turn toxic from guilt, jealousy or outside influence, but most of all from pain they don't know how to process.

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You can't fix a clown, but you can remove yourself from the circus.

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Send her love, draw a boundary and stay firm.

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Your truth don't need validation, it needs peace.

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Next we have Alton from Newark, new Jersey.

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She says she's a queen and deserves a king, but she won't cook, won't clean, won't work and expects me to pay for everything.

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Why are so many women so entitled?

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Altonay, entitlement is the new epidemic, and it's loud.

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I used to be that girl.

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I expected a man to play provider, protector and therapist, while the only things I brought were vibes and my twat.

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I had to grow up and realize that being a queen requires more than lip gloss and an attitude.

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It means bringing peace, effort and contribution.

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All queens match energy.

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If she ain't matching your hustle, she's not your crown, she's your burden.

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Our last one is from Jasmine and Slidell, louisiana.

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I was in a relationship where I became the liar, the cheat, the manipulator just to keep up with my narcissistic girlfriend.

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How do I heal and not carry but energy forward?

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Oh, jasmine, thank you for the honesty.

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I once became a worse version of myself trying to survive a relationship with a narcissist.

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They'll turn you into what they fear then blame you for it.

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Healing ain't cute, it's crying at two in the morning, journaling therapy and cutting off access.

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You heal by choosing peace over performance.

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Off access you heal by choosing peace over performance or by reminding yourself surviving isn't the same as living.

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Choose to live.

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Sis, here's this week's shout outs.

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Now hold up.

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I gotta show love where it's due.

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Shout out to my homegirl, lisa in DC.

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She posted that mirror selfie in her red hoodie and looked fine doing it.

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Tasha out in Kenya said she wears her.

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Let me pull your coat cap to the market just to let folks know she's about that grown woman talk.

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And Maribel in Dallas, that tour jacket with the gold trim.

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Much love to all y'all that listen, post, repost and send in your messy, messy stories.

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I see you, I appreciate you and don't think I forgot.

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Here's your cult pull of the week.

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Ladies, stop asking for loyalty while feeding men betrayal stock, calling yourself a queen when your kingdom is built on manipulation and, for the love of truth, stop weaponizing tears to avoid accountability.

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Being a woman doesn't give you the right to ruin others.

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Being hurt doesn't give you the right to hurt others.

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Both starts when you stop playing the victim in stories you wrote yourself.

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But all you ladies out there, if you're tired of the street, call the man who helped me leave it.

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Ladies, I need y'all to lean in for this one, because everything I just said, every word I spit on this mic tonight, wouldn't even be possible if I hadn't made one call to Master Silk.

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If you're tired, I mean truly tired Tired of working them corners, I mean truly tired.

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Tired of working them corners.

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Tired of fake love, of men who use you, of women who envy you, of making just enough to survive but not enough to breathe, then it's time to stop pretending you don't need help.

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I was deep in the game.

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I had money, had tricks, had cars, but I didn't have a way out.

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And one day I looked in the mirror and said I either get out now or I die behind this smile I fake every day.

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So I hit up Silk.

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He didn't judge me, he didn't talk down to me.

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He started rebuilding me, brick by brick.

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He showed me how to invest, how to clean up my credit, how to flip cash into property, how to turn silence into power.

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He helped me turn my street hustle into a real damn portfolio.

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Now I own properties, I mentor other women, I got peace and passive income.

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But listen, he don't chase.

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You gotta want it.

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You gotta humble yourself and say I need something better than this.

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And if you're ready, go to letmepolyourcoatcom, leave a message or voicemail with a way to contact you and just say Silk, I'm ready.

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That's all it takes.

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It'll do for you what he did for me.

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Look at it.

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Be sure to read the accompanying blog for this episode and letmepolyourcoatcom Until next week.

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The world is a cold, unforgiving place.

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We hope we made it a little warmer for you.

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See you next week.

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Much love and much respect.